I have set up this blog because I need a place I can journal, as I learn about my son who was diagnosed with Aspergers (AS) last year.
He was 12 when he was diagnosed so it was a late one, but better late than never we hope!
My son would be described as an outgoing, friendly, eccentric type of little guy!
Asperger syndrome is described as "one of the autism spectrum disorders, characterized by abnormalities of social interaction and communication that pervade the individual's functioning, and by restricted and repetitive interests and behavior."
Unlike those with autism, people with AS are not usually withdrawn around others.
Anton is VERY social and willingly approaches others, even if awkwardly, for example by engaging in a one-sided, long-winded speech about a favorite topic such as insects!
He often does not recognize the listener's feelings or reactions, if the listener is in a rush to get away, he just doesn't get it.
This social awkwardness has been defined as "active but odd", thus the blog name!
This failure to react appropriately to social interaction may appear as disregard for other people's feelings, and may come across as insensitive.
But he does have feelings and cares for others, but finds it hard to show this in a "normal" way.
I have spent about a year "grieving" over the fact that my son has AS because his social impairment is lifelong. I always knew he was 'different' but having a form of autism was not what I expected.
But the outcome is generally more positive than with individuals with lower functioning autism spectrum disorders. Anton has such special qualities, a quirky sense of humour, and a keen passion for learning about his special subjects, and hopefully his passion for insects and gemstones etc, will lead to a successful life one day.
I am glad we found out that he does have AS, because in these crucial teenage years, he needs understanding, compassion and tolerance. And his "special" ways needs encouraging and nurturing. I have to now throw frustration out of the window, learn about AS and embrace the special unique moments.
